The only way to remain in the present is to give up the past. Do not let your past burden your present and block your future.
Eliminate everything that does not align with your purpose in the kingdom of God.
Garbage Disposal Plan
Get rid of “Anguish”
It involves a traumatic combination of shock, grief, and helplessness. It is the feeling that is enough to bring us to our knees. We feel helpless & powerless, and the situation feels out of our control. We even manage to control it for a while, but the feeling crawls back to us from time to time.
When we go through anguish, it is time to ask for [help]. But instead of addressing the trauma, we sometimes decide to look away and convince ourselves that everything is fine. [This will only set us up for failure because what we won’t feel, we can’t heal. Anger is not bad or sinful, the unholy expression of it is. Find healthy ways to express anger and dispose of it. Such as the “Unsent Letter” that includes every detail of your anguish and pain and then is burned as you sing songs of salvation, such as “Jesus Paid it All.”]
Get rid of “Hopelessness”
When hopelessness turns pervasive and starts seeping into all aspects of our life and combines with extreme sadness, it becomes despair. We become hopeless about everything in our life. It is dangerous as it fuels suicidal tendencies and is a red flag for us to ask for professional help. [Hopelessness is to depression what oil is to fire. The word of God agrees in that it teaches when hope is deferred it makes the heart sick. Proverbs 13:12. My Virtuous Sisters, hope in the Lord.]
As you go about disposing of anguish, helplessness, powerlessness, hopelessness and despair, take note of the following perspective: A question to ask yourself whenever your past issues arise is how will it change by holding onto it 5 more hours, 5 more days, 5 more months, or 5 more years.
God understandeth the way thereof, and he knoweth the place thereof. For he looketh to the ends of the whole heaven. Job 28:23-24 KJV.
 Workbook: Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience. Publications, Cosmic.