Are We Done Yet?

If this quote sounds harsh to you it could be because you have not fully realized the need to let go. You are not alone in this hesitancy. I ,too, have been there. I have also been under the false belief that you need to be mad or upset to be done. This is just not so. It is a false belief that breeds unnecessary suffering for all parties involved.

Necessary Separation
“I found it difficult to shake the shame of my diligent efforts to maintain my marriage to no avail. I wished him to change. I willed him to change. I prayed for his change. I exhausted myself with his change that never seemed to preface the horizon. “Every glimmer of change” came with such flickering hope. My heart was broken. My fairy tale did not include the knight in shining armor, but instead, I ended up having to armor myself with a necessary separation. Through years of personal counseling and professional training as a therapist, I knew that I entered the marriage with a healthy sense of self and purpose. However, the mortification of another broken marriage was too much to bear.”

The End of Forever. Phyllis McColister, Author

There is no shame in letting go. The shame will appear when the letting go is coupled with anger, resentment and bitterness.

Take these steps with me:

1. ) Address what you need to address without fear. Fear does not come from God. 2 Timothy 1:7.
2. 3) Surrender everything and everyone outside your control. Remain still and know who is God. Psalms 46:10
3. 4) Reflect upon on the 8,000 promises of God to you in His word. Psalm 145:9

These steps will lead to softly ending relationships in the spirit of grace and love. Allowing others the freedom to choose rightly and doing so without anger, resentment and bitterness.